When our kids were young, it was easy to be in control of their schedule. We made the plans that determined what would constitute fun for the family. As our kids became teenagers, and their peers’s opinions were far more important to them than ours, they might not have wanted to spend extra-curricular time with us. (Who are we kidding? Teenagers think of spending fun time with their parents like one might think of the plague). Once they became adults, the thought of spending quality time with us might have appeared “good on paper”, but the reality of their jobs, children, pets, schedules and appointments often made it much more difficult for them to do so.
What’s the answer? When your adult kids invite you to join them for an experience that you might not have otherwise partaken in, be it hot yoga, paddle boarding or mountain biking, put your fears aside and try it anyway! Just because you agree to the activity does not mean you have to go fast right off the bat. It doesn’t mean you have to have the activity figured out right away. It means you are willing to try something new. This allows your adult child the ability to be in control, instead of you. It boosts their self confidence by allowing them to demonstrate their competency. It can also provide a wonderful bonding experience.
Expanding horizons, no matter our age, helps keep us informed, educated and sharp. Being open to new experiences means saying “yes” to opportunities to bond with our adult kids. It also helps us to mentally stay positive and young. Will it always go smoothly? Heck no! That’s part of the fun! Embrace it and share the good feelings with your adult kids. It will bring your relationship to a whole other level!
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Life Lessons for Being a Parent to Your Adult Child 